I watched a movie today, “Bridget Jones’ Diary: The Edge of Reason,” the sequel to the “Bridget Jones’ Diary”. I thought it’s as witty as the first one, but it’s not. It’s kind of boring. Looks like it wants to talk and show many things, chop-chop, here and there. Well, it still talks about Bridget (Rene Zellweger), and her problematic insecurity about relationship with men. The Lawyer, Mark Darcy (Colin Firth), who she loves… the Liar, Daniel Cleaver (Hugh Grant), who she loves to hate🙂 Bridget’s insecurity is a mirror for most ‘pleasantly plump’ women in today’s society. Today’s society has its own image of professional women… they have to be smart, they have to say clever things, they have to be good looking, they have to have a ‘perfect’ body🙂 In other words… women hardly can be comfortable in their own selves. What I (and I believe most women) found romantic in this movie is that despite all her flaws, according to the current norm in society, she dares to speak her mind and feeling and at last found her true love… Mark Darcy who is smart, handsome, a man of good standing who really stands up for Bridget. I guess if a man is not ashamed when he sees his woman makes embarassing comments or conducts in public or around his colleagues then he must really love his woman🙂
I won’t elaborate about the storyline, go to see the movie🙂
After a movie, a coffee, and a strolling along the shops, I found myself craving for something sweet. Don’t feel like eating chocolote, or giant cookies, so I went to the nearest Uncle Timmy* and stood on the line for a fruit explosion muffin. I thought it would be nice to have it with my tea while I was listening to music.
On the line in front of me was a lady, bald, with kind of strange apparels. She looked very impatient because of the long line and the time it took for the server to handle the whole thing. Many times she looked across the cashier… to check whether the other line was not as long as this line. Then she moved over to that line. Of course I moved forward.
Couple minutes later, she came back and tried to cut in line without even saying ‘excuse me.’ I didn’t budge a bit. She kept pushing herself in while looking at me and said, “I’ve just checked the other line. I’m back. It’s my place.” Wow!! I thought, “Why didn’t you say excuse me, lady? And you didn’t say that you just wanted to check out the other line when you left the queue. How rude.” But… instead of blurting out those words I just let her stand ahead of me.
While I was wondering the reason why this lady acted like this, I saw a Buddhist praying’s beads inside her right pocket. Then, I laughed… of course not at her face🙂 A person with such emblem of Buddist faith, that I thought should have been a zealous believer and practitioner of her faith, failed to practice kindness and humility this time. Didn’t we all sometimes fail to practice kindness and humility in our day-to-day life?
This was exactly my “tuei yi bu, hai kuo tien kong”** moment. I didn’t let my emotion creep in. Well, I just thought, I wasn’t in a rush and it didn’t kill me to wait for another 5 minutes on the line to get my muffin. Let this lady had what she wanted, she had to have a very good reason to be like that🙂 Guess what,… I felt much better! Anyway, it’s just a lady and muffin🙂
*Uncle Timmy: a nick name I used to say for Tim Horton, a Canadian coffee-chain business.
**”Tuei yi bu, hai kuo tien kong” is a wise saying in Chinese culture, meaning in any situation, if you’re willing to step back, you can see the situation clearly, with open heart.
"Tuei yi bu, hai kuo tien kong"
November 29, 2004 by Bebeth